Love, family and friendship are for me the most important parts of my life. Yes, I guess you could consider them things and that talks against the topic, but for me they are not. You can't buy or touch love, family and friendship. Things are for me something you can either touch or purchase.
I don't believe that you can live without love. I believe that you can survive but not truly live. It doesn't have to be love for another person, but I think we all need something or someone that we can refer to as "love." For me "love" is the love I have for my boyfriend and the passion I have for fashion and traveling. I love comming coming home after work because I know he is there,period he might be busy, but he is there. I love having the time to sit down and work on the next garment that I am going to create. I love the way my stomach feels when I explore a new city, town or country. it would be good if you could include specific moments--with real detailed descriptions, to illustrate each of these.
Family is something that you can't choose, touch or purchase. What you are born into is what you have and you have to learn how to live with it. It might not always be the great family that you sometimes wish for, but it's yours. For me family is something that always will be there and support me no matter what I do. I know my family is far from perfect, but its my family. I don't ever have to pretend to be someone else for my family to love and respect me. My family will except accept me for who I am and not for what I do and what I have accomplished in life.
Friendship is on the other hand something that you can choose, but you can't touch it and you certainly can't buy it. It doesn't cost me anything to treat people the same way that I would like to be treated. No one is going to charge my creditcard for showing other people respect. For me a close friend is someone that you have for life, as long as you nuture the friendship. I have a friend like that, back home in Sweden. I met her 18 years ago and we have been unseperatly inseparable ever since. The first 12 years we did everything in our power, not to be apart. Unfortunatlyunfortunately my family had a summer house, a beautiful house outside Stockholm. We spent most of the summers there. It was great and I loved it, but Jeanette couldn't be there with me all summer. Anyway, we made the best out of it and talked on the phone a lot. At the end of every summer when my family drove back to the city, Jeanette would stand there on our street waiting for me. this is almost a moment, but could be more specific--one summer--with more description These past 6 years we have both been traveling a lot and on top of that I moved here to N.Y.C three years ago. These days we only get to see each other once a year when I go back to Sweden to visit. We try to speak on the phone as much as possible, but it's hard with the time difference. When she is home, I'm at school and when I'm home, she is sleeping. Even though that we are physically apart from each other, we are always mentally with one and other. The friendship that we have will last forever no matter where we are in the world or were we are in life.
Since being here in New York, I have understood even more how much all these things mean to me. I'm by myself here, or at least without my close friends and family. I have noticed how important it is for me to have all of this in my life. I know I still have it but it's not the same when you have to travel abroad to be with them. I have two extra family's here though, a family I met three years ago when I came to stay with them as an au-pair. I love them and they love me. We spend holidays together somtimes and I know that I count as one in the family. I also have my boyfriends family here, they support me and wants me to be happy. So I have both these family's, but it's not the same, it's not my family. I don't have that many friend's here, sure I know people, I hang out with them,but would I call them my truly friends. No, not yet. It seem to me that it's hard to find friend's here. Everybody are so busy with thier life, and everything they need to pursue. This goes for me as well, I have come to realize that I'm not as upset anymore about the fact that I don't have those close friends here that I have at home. Just as everybody else, I'm too busy thinking about my own life.
These three "things" are for me the most important parts of my life. I couldn't function without any of them. The reason they are all so important parts of my life is because thay all go hand in hand with each other. They all have great memories and moments to tell. For me, great memories means that you lived a rich life, a life filled with love, passion and friendship. All the times that my boyfriend and I have shared a bottle of wine over dinner, the time that we explored Mexico and Dominican Republic together or just a simple thing as taking a walk around the neigborhood. All the times when my father and I have stayed up until the morning, just talking about life. All the times that my father cheered me on during soccer (he didn't missed miss a single game). It came so real to me this last weekend, how truly important it is to have a family that loves you. I had my brother here to visit, I had know idea that I had missed him so much. We had an amizing four days together and I wanted him to stay forever.again, one or two moments from those four days would make this stronger as a personal narrative It felt so good to have a part of my family with me on the same place of earth. Jeanette and I have great memories as well. All the secrets that we have shared over the years. Everytime something exiting happen in our life, she was the first person I called and I was the first person she called. She has always been there for me and always will, no matter what, and I will always be there for her. I would give anything to have her here with me.
So you see, whats important in life are not where you live, what kind of car you're driving or how much money you make. It's not about how much things you have or can buy. It doesn't matter if you have all the money in the world and you can buy anything you want. When it all comes down to it, the only things that really counts are friends, family and love.
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