On my job there are young women and older women. This is a job of nursing care in a nursing home, where the bulk of the care giving iare doone by the certified nursing assistances, and we are expected to be care givers. Some of the older women feel because they were there for a hundred years, they know it all and want to tell you how to do the job. If you deside to take it upon your- self to do your job by to the book, then you have know violated their way of doing things. IN other words you are now show them up, and as they will put it making them look bad, and that is where the subtle and sometimes verbal abuse come in. The accusations, the demans, the way in trying to demean you, and speak hashly for no good reasons at all, even if there was a reason that was not call for. They will try to make you unhappy on the job so you will leave if you let them. They will weven set up to get you fired. This attitude have a lot to do with insecurity for some, and for others the need to control other, because they they have no control in themself or in their household. Some of these women know that they are doing a terrible job and they think these new wokers are there to replace them, so the faster that I can get you out the longer I stay. This happen especially if they been assign to a floor for a long time, they develop the attitude that the patients belong to them and the floor is theirs. This is usually the cause of the problem, because you did not make a contract with them.
Some of these workers attitudes towards the patients are disgusting and uncaring. Each one of these patients are here for a reason, and usually to no fault of their own. Their illness range from physical to mental, and some have no where to live. In some cases these older workers are tired, but can not quit for some reason or another, so they are taking their frustation on the people they spend the most time with. Others just want to come make their dollars and leave, with no real inter action with the patients. Now we do have some older CNA's who genuinely care about the patients and think the world of them, and give them the best of care. There are the younger CNA's who are in those category of four, the insecure, the controller, the I'm just here for the money, and the true care giver. The frigthening is most of the care givers are women who suppose to be nurturers and yet only a small percentage of them really give that care, to the patients and their co-workers.
Going back to Toni Morrison's statement when she said, "I am alarmed by the violence, that women do to each other: prefessional violence, competitive violence, emotional violence, the willingness of women to enslave other women, and the growing absence of decency on the killing floor of professional women's worlds." It is sad that these kind of behavior take place with women and it have nothing to do with their economic back ground. A persons heart determine how they wish to deal with other and how they are raised, this may have little to do with the way they were raise. Women need to come to term that we are not enemies and to get over their insecurities. They need to work together, showing equal respect to one another allowing each one to grow by teaching and learning from one another. There are to much at stake, we are mothers, daughters, sisters and friends. If we teach each other as such, all the bickering, name calling, looking down and sizing up one another will stop. As Toni said, "I am suggesting that we pay as much attention to our nurturing sensibilities as to our ambition," in other words put the same amount of time in both, become balance.